Keeping The Family Together With Marriage Therapy
So what if your marriage is not working out. There is no need to take any drastic steps as of yet. Indeed getting a divorce is the last thing that should be on one's mind. All is not lost yet. One could get themselves enrolled for marriage therapy under an eminent counselor. A good marriage counselor would patiently listen to your problems and suggest remedies and ways to keep the marriage intact. If things don't work out even after that then one could think about going their own separate ways. It is the mindset that matters. One should be ready to sacrifice some things and be ready to save the marriage to make the counseling work. As mentioned above, the attitude and the mindset of the participants are most vital to the efficiency of the therapy. If the participants are ready to save the marriage then the suggestions of the counselor may work. But in case the participants are hell bent upon going their own separate ways then marriage therapy is certainly not for them. The first task is to sit down and think if one really needs marriage therapy. Many experts suggest taking a simple test of a few questions to know if marriage therapy is really needed. Some of these questions are "Do you criticize each other?", "Do you fell contempt for each other?", "Do you like the other's company?" and other questions on these lines. If your answer to these questions is a "Yes", you are in dire need of marriage therapy. The second task and essentially the most important one is to find a well qualified marriage and family counselor. A well qualified counselor has to have a master's degree in family psychology or in psychology in general. Again experts can help you find a good counselor. It's the behavior of the counselor during the counseling sessions that determines whether he is a good counselor or not. The mark of a good counselor is that he will listen patiently to all that both the parties have to say and then offer suggestions and possibly remedies that are appropriate for the situation. A good counselor will never be stuck on one option as the course of all action. He/she will always provide options to save your marriage rather than break it. So the next time your marriage counselor suggests a divorce as soon as you relate your problems to them, you better find a new counselor. Thinking about the problem from the counselors' point of view, counseling as a career option is a tough job and requires oodles of patience and a helping nature. According to surveys, people who visit marriage counselors most are young couples, or people with inter faith marriages. A counselor should perennially strive to save their marriage rather than suggesting a divorce. The matter is compounded when they need to give family counseling. Mostly, it is a case of one of the parents not being ready for a child. The counselor needs to know how to tackle the situation perfectly and how to advise them on their future courses of action. Marriage therapy could cost about 100$ to 200$ per session. Coming to think of it, it is a bit costly but one would be advised to visit a qualified marriage counselor rather than take advice from friends or relatives in a sensitive matter such as your marriage. After all, as the first man Adam said "After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live outside the Garden with her than inside it without her." |
